How to overcome Perfectionism and Fear of Failure?
How to overcome Perfectionism and Fear of Failure?
Do you strive to be perfect? Never feeling fully satisfied with where things are now? Do you think you are not good enough, think of yourself as a loser?
If you want to be the most, the first and the best of all…Stop it! Perfectionism is destroying you.
Perfectionists are highly critical of others and themselves. They strive to achieve their best performance and goals in everything they do. What they can’t accept in themselves is something they reject in others.
They try to please others with their performance. And although it encourages them to excel, it also instills a fear of failure.
If you strive to be perfect, you tend to compare yourself with others and often try to demean them.
People try hard to have their lives look perfect in order to mask massive underlying issues.
Do any of these statements sound familiar to you?
I have been told I am too judgmental, often thinking the worst of others
I feel that others have unrealistically high expectations of me
I hate asking for help, because it can be perceived as a flaw or weakness
I can’t stand being interrupted
I can’t stand it if my house/office is not organised meticulously
I think that others are constantly judging me and feeling dissatisfied with me.
I get really upset when I feel criticized
I feel I have to do everything myself because nobody can do things properly
I can’t stop thinking about a mistake I made
It is difficult for me to delegate
I want something either perfect or not at all
I am constantly checking and rechecking work before considering it finished
I am careful about how I phrase things so people will like me
I find it very difficult to say ‘no’
I feel guilty if I take time for myself
Asking for what I want is hard for me
I avoid any situation which could be confrontational
I am reluctant to form relationships with others for fear of being rejected or looking foolish
I get irritated when others don’t get things right
When I have made a decision I often doubt my choice
I avoid social situations because I feel uncomfortable
I feel inferior to people more successful, more attractive than me
People will look down on me if I look foolish or make a mistake
I feel devastated if I make a mistake
I am very competitive and can’t stand doing worse than others
I avoid trying things I might not be good at
I don't want others see my imperfections
I worry about what people will think of me
I want to be thought of as a nice person
I am a fault-finder, I must correct other people when they are wrong
I find myself obsessing about the finer details of a task
I felt that I could never meet my parents’ expectations
It is hard for me to complain about a poor product or service
I tend to be quite critical of my family/colleagues which causes arguments and bad feelings
I feel anxious if I think someone might think badly of me
I am very self-conscious about making mistakes in front of other people
If I don’t do well all the time people won’t respect me
I hate it if I don’t get something right from the beginning
Every project I do has to be 100-percent perfect
I don’t like it when others don't do something the way I do
I like to be ready for everything that can happen
If I gain a few pounds, I will look like a pig
I am often tense and depressed when I need to do something
I can be very fixated on details
If people knew my true self, they would dislike me
If during a diet I eat one cookie, I continue to eat because I have already ruined the diet
I will look terrible if I wear shorts because my legs are fat
I often use the word “must”.
Entertaining is good, but only after I finish all the work
I am never really satisfied with my work; it never feels completely finished
My self-confidence depends on my achievements
If I fail, I tend to ruminate about it over and over again.
I can never have anyone over to dinner because my house is messy
It’s hard for me to finish projects because I can always do something more to improve them
If my report isn’t perfect, I’ll get fired
I’m indecisive because I’m afraid of making a mistake
I have to volunteer for every project
I have to endlessly prove my worth at work and it is exhausting
It is hard for me to think outside the box
Nobody ever appreciates me
Although I earn good money, I constantly think that it’s not enough
I want to feel and look successful, so I spend a lot of money on clothes and status items (cars, phones, etc.)
Perfectionists tend to be:
Competitive
Defensive and over-emotional
Ambitious
Critical, picky
Fussy, judgmental
Aggressive or hostile
Afraid of criticism
Fast walking, talking, speaking
Here are some negative effects of perfectionism:
Anxiety
Depression
Beating yourself up
Panic disorder
Social isolation
Insomnia
Exhaustion and tiredness
Muscle tension
Working endless hours
Rumination
Increased self-criticism
Sexual dysfunction
Low self-esteem
Repeated checking
Obsessive-compulsive disorder
Excessive amount of time spent on tasks
Putting off tasks (procrastination)
List-making
Being over-thorough
Hating to waste time
Decreased creativity
Decreased job satisfaction
Eating disorders
In this course you will learn:
How to deal with challenges and failures
How to stop worrying about everything
How to overcome inner critic
How to achieve your goals
How to behave at work
How to say “NO”
How to deal with negative thoughts
How to stop being harsh and unforgiving
How to make a decision without stress
How to stop being rigid and inflexible
how to overcome the fear of failure
How to stop worrying about your body image and weight loss
How to raise confident and happy children
How to overcome painful emotions and be happy
How to overcome jealousy
How to stop judging people
How to stop having high expectations of people and life
How to stop worrying about losing your job
How to be pleased with yourself
How to be a positive person
How to be assertive
How to overcome your deepest fears
How to deal with mean people
How to accept reality and circumstances
How to deal with grief and loss
How to be mindful
How to outgrow your childhood experiences
How to raise a non-perfectionist child
How to deal with anxiety
How to praise yourself and your achievements
How to be grateful
How to communicate your needs and desires
How to use the correct language
How to deal with negative thoughts
How to find a perfect partner and be in a happy relationship
How to communicate with friends without stress
How to overcome aggression and resentment
How to start changing your life
How to show empathy
How to listen to somebody
How to overcome the fear of growing old
How to react to criticism
How to let go of control
Perfectionists are people who are supposed to be successful and happy, but strangely are not. They are highly critical of others and themselves. They strive to achieve the best performance and goals in everything they do. Despite being wealthy, healthy, famous, and gorgeous, they are unhappy.
Perfectionism makes you stay home, not take chances, and procrastinate on projects. It makes you think your life is worse than it is; it keeps you from being yourself; it stresses you out.
This course will help you to give up perfectionism and start living a happy life. You will learn to overcome procrastination and keep moving toward your goals. This course will also give you some tools to overcome the fear of failure, anxiety and negativity. You will learn how to make good decisions and be more flexible.
How to overcome the need to be the first, the most, the best of all. Perfectionism in relationships, at work, in family
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What you will learn
- How to deal with challenges and failures
- How to stop worrying about everything
- How to overcome inner critic
Rating: 4.6
Level: All Levels
Duration: 4 hours
Instructor: Narmina Gasimova
Courses By: 0-9 A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z
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